zoogs Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 I wonder how that argument doesn't work against what the author herself identifies as a "real issue". But I respect that there are different approaches to the best way to raise the importance of a topic. -- 2 Link to comment
BigRedBuster Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 This guy is a reap piece of crap. 2 Link to comment
zoogs Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 Oh my god. I was just reading that. Imagine being one of the foot soldiers in the Weinstein operation. How do you live with yourself putting your skills to use for that end? How do you not wake up every day and not think, "I'm on the wrong side of this." 1 Link to comment
NM11046 Posted November 10, 2017 Author Share Posted November 10, 2017 Pretty introspective article, thanks for posting. She's able to verbalize what so many of us are having a tough time with. There's no doubt the disgust I feel, and that I know how wrong it is, and that there is a no doubt why people wait to report (if they ever do) but there is a weird empathy that seeps in. 1 Link to comment
zoogs Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 ^Yep! I think introspection is invaluable. We have this whole way of responding to things that we've internalized. Some of it is unfortunate in what it prioritizes. More good reading; a WaPo article entitled "What it’s like to watch men like Roy Moore as a conservative and as a sex abuse survivor": https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2017/11/10/what-its-like-to-watch-men-like-roy-moore-as-a-conservative-and-as-a-sex-abuse-survivor/?utm_term=.56c52bc24e4c "The evil of sexual predators is that they attack the weak, make them weaker, then discredit them because of their weakness. [...] But these victims, one by one, are coming forward anyway — well aware that they’ll be mocked and disbelieved, well aware that some will scrutinize their lives more harshly than their predators’." Link to comment
zoogs Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 (edited) https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2017/11/08/donald-trump-johnstown-pennsylvania-supporters-215800 Cross-posting this article from another thread. Here's this quote, which is both from an everyday American and exactly the kind of thing you see, hear, and read all the time. It's pretty reflective of how we basically treat, think, and talk about women. Without thinking. It's automatic. And pointing it out is going to get some eye-rolling, "Come on, you're going to make a big deal of that?"...which again is emblematic of the problem. Quote I stopped him, informing him that, yes, Barack Obama liked to golf, but Trump in fact does golf a lot, too—more, in fact. [...] He did not linger on this topic, smiling and changing the subject with a quip. “If I was married to his wife,” Del Signore said, “I don’t think I’d go anywhere.” He is married, if you were wondering. "A Catholic whose wife goes to Church every Sunday". Edited November 11, 2017 by zoogs 1 Link to comment
Guy Chamberlin Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 I think the only place for this to end up --- where it should have been all along -- is that a man is free to say whatever he want to a woman in an attempt to get laid. And we are free to judge that man however we want. But you can't ask a woman who is dependent on you for her career to watch you masturbate. There was never a time when that was okay. Kinda like how cell phone cameras showed how far we are away from true civil rights, this wave of emboldened women reveals just how ugly some men can be and still get away with it. Gotta admit I've been surprised and depressed by both. Link to comment
zoogs Posted November 13, 2017 Share Posted November 13, 2017 An incredible, powerful piece by Rebecca Traister: Please give it a full read. Link to comment
zoogs Posted November 21, 2017 Share Posted November 21, 2017 Wow, Charlie Rose. Also long rumored, apparently well known, but never publicized and never a problem for him: https://www.washingtonpost.com/investigations/eight-women-say-charlie-rose-sexually-harassed-them--with-nudity-groping-and-lewd-calls/2017/11/20/9b168de8-caec-11e7-8321-481fd63f174d_story.html?utm_term=.5539ba66ec77 I think part of the issue with men like Charlie Rose is that they just assumed this was how things go. If you aren't walking the line on harrassing, you aren't trying and you certainly won't get any. It's a bit of a different world now, where society is starting to expect you to view the women in your professional orbit as people and not playthings. And equally, women are more empowered to speak up and advocate for themselves, rather than rely on whisper networks or be taught to accept it as necessary facts of professional life as a woman. It turns out it's possible to be respectful of women, express interest in ways and in spaces that are appropriate for it, and respect their decisions as their own and not something you have to work at / engineer things until you get the result you want. (Just thinking about that last point though, I have a huge problem with how these kinds of interactions tend to play out on TV. Hollywood is nothing if not scripted, and the script is an old and gross one in this area. How many times have we seen the trope of jerk guy wears a woman down until she gives in? It's no wonder sometimes that people internalize this all as what is expected.) 1 Link to comment
zoogs Posted November 21, 2017 Share Posted November 21, 2017 (edited) CBS has just fired Charlie Rose. Also, oof: Podhoretz is a NY Post columnist and former speechwriter to two U.S. Presidents (Reagan, H.W.) Edited November 21, 2017 by zoogs 1 Link to comment
BigRedBuster Posted November 21, 2017 Share Posted November 21, 2017 The Charley Rose issue is frustrating to me because I have thought for a long time that he was the closest we had to someone in news who is closest to the old Walter Cronkite mold. Who knows....maybe Walter used to chase tail around the office too. Link to comment
funhusker Posted November 21, 2017 Share Posted November 21, 2017 (edited) 3 hours ago, zoogs said: CBS has just fired Charlie Rose. Also, oof: Podhoretz is a NY Post columnist and former speechwriter to two U.S. Presidents (Reagan, H.W.) I think the trouble people like this are having is equating "a pass" with "sleep with me and I'll be in a better mood when I give out Christmas bonuses". Now, I don't recommend a boss ask his assistant out on a date after two weeks on the job. But grown adults that work together for a long period of time can develop pretty serious relationships. I guess I don't see an issue with a boss letting his assistant know about these feelings as long as he is prepared to never mention them again and maintain a professional relationship after he is turned down. I'm I wrong in thinking this way? Edited November 21, 2017 by funhusker Link to comment
Landlord Posted November 21, 2017 Share Posted November 21, 2017 3 hours ago, zoogs said: CBS has just fired Charlie Rose. Also, oof: Podhoretz is a NY Post columnist and former speechwriter to two U.S. Presidents (Reagan, H.W.) I completely disagree with Jeet Heer's dismissive assessment of what Podhoretz is trying to get at, which is a legitimate concern of the idea that collectively we aren't really looking for justice as much as we're looking for ego-feeding "bad guys", and if that's our underlying desire then it will be easy to erroneously paint undeserving targets in the quest for a supposed moral advancement. I'm not talking about Charlie Rose, although, in a way he's right about how we are all learning about this together. Men are learning that we've had a massively ignorant blind spot, and women are learning that they've internalized this misogyny and harrassment. What the Vox article gets wrong is that we are collectively learning with a higher degree of fidelity - on a spectrum - instead of just a "you either know about it or you don't" false dichotomy. Anyways, regardless of that, I'm talking about how in the midst of a very good thing with the turn of the tide culturally for women to feel emboldened to share their stories, and for men to be able to experience proper and proportionate consequences, we need to hold on to common sense. Outrage is outrageously addictive. The base layers of our brain are spending every second wanting to put people into categories, to label, to find patterns and to create us/them scenarios. It served us pretty well as hunter gatherers - we need to consciously and actively fight the impulse in culture. Link to comment
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