okaive
All-Conference
As I said before, the kid can just ignore and walk away. Just because your standing up for yourself, it doesn't mean that your getting into fights. Even back when I was a kid (30yrs ago) we would come home crying because of what someone said. My father asked me if it was true what the boy said. I said "No", "then why are you crying, are you bleeding?" "No". "Then you can still walk and have fun someone where else?". I live by this because I know that words don't mean crap and that is what needs to be instilled in the kids now.Some kids are smaller and weaker than others and may be too scared to stand up for themselves for fear of being beat up. Not every person is the same. Me for example, I don't like controversy and try to avoid it at all costs. Do I stand up for myself, yes, but I do it in a respectful manner.
What about the kids that don't play sports? That is another thing that is wrong with this world, if you don't play sports, you must be a nerd. And if a kid wants to do something, they should be allowed to do it, regardless of talent. What is that telling a kid? You can only do things your good at, if not don't even try. You do know childrens brains work differently than adults, right? If you tell a child this, they may think of themselves as a failure and shut down.
And as a coach, I don't have any problem with not taking scores at a very young age. Maybe this is why parents are freaking psycho when it comes to sports (I've been an umpire, so I know first hand). Maybe this is why two Dodger fans sucker punched a Giants fan on opening day and now he is in a coma (father of two btw) bc they were taught at a young age that winning is everything. Screw sportsmanship, win the game! The first baseball practice I had with my team (9 year olds) I told them that yes, winning is nice, but we do things the right way. No trash talking, no disrespecting opponents, umpires and coaches. And if we lose, we shake their hands and tell them good game. Sportsmanship is more important than winning and keeping score and we need to teach kids this at a young age.
As for the sports, you and I basically said the same thing. You are telling your kids that if they lose, don't be mad and enjoy the game. I am saying the same thing, but saying that the kids need to know what winning and losing feels like. And I did say at a young age it is all about the fun of the sport and not the score (not in those words).
When they get older and the kid can't play because he is to fat (just throwing one out there, fill in your own word if you like), then he realizes either he needs to lose weight to compete or figure something else to do. There are a ton of sports that takes all types of people. They just have to figure out which one if they don't want to change and go after it. Not only that, but sports aren't for everyone. For some it is band or the "nerdy" stuff. As long as they are socializing with others kids face to face and not on a video game every waking hour after school. When I used to play PC games, it was amazing how many 9 or 10 yr olds that I would hear in Ventrilo that was speaking cuss words because they died or things didn't go their way. I am a retired sailor and their mouth was worse then mine. Where are the parents?
I am not saying don't love your child to much, but just don't give them false hope on specific things when you know it is not true and should be helping them to overcome that crutch of whatever it is. (again, if the kid is fat, control what he eats then letting him eat whatever and whenever he wants (watched a news program that had a 300lb 8 yr old that couldn't walk. Her mom said that she didn't know what to do. The next segment the girl asks for junk food and the mom gives it to her. A prime example)).
Sorry a 400lb 8 yr old. Here is the video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNATWsVVwgo
this type of behavior is going everywhere with parents. let your kid do what they want and then wonder why their kids are having problems.