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My wife recently has been asking to go along to lift when I lift at the gym. I don't necessarily have an issue with that, but the fact that she is constantly bugging me about help and asking questions, it kind of takes me out of "the zone". I told her I would be more than willing to help initially, but eventually she would have to get a little less dependent. Take the information I give her about machines, lifts, stretches, etc, and put them in her memory bank.

 

She is an avid runner already but knows very little, if anything at all, about lifting. I have bought her some smaller dumbbells for home use and we already had some that are adjustable up to 25 lbs. She has gotten "bored" with the home lifting and yet also says she hates gyms because "guys just stare" at her. Anyway, what are your thoughts on having a significant other (who has no background lifting) wanting to lift WITH you?

Am I being a dick?

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gross...lifting with your wife/GF is gross and horrible and like, really weird. Going at the same time is one thing but working out together is horrible.

 

By the way, anyone ever notice that EVERY girl thinks that EVERY guy is staring at her at the gym?

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I used to workout with an ex, and enjoyed it. I like to help people so that may make a difference. It just got annoying when she would say she couldn't do something (but she could if she tried) ,and when she wouldn't do something because she "didn't want to look like a guy".

 

Quite a few guys at my new gym workout with girls.

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I used to workout with an ex, and enjoyed it. I like to help people so that may make a difference. It just got annoying when she would say she couldn't do something (but she could if she tried) ,and when she wouldn't do something because she "didn't want to look like a guy".

Quite a few guys at my new gym workout with girls.

You aren't the guy that runs over to other people that are lifting that you don't know and start offering advice, are you? I'm the type of guy that doesn't do cardio, unless I see a super hot girl doing cardio in the machine next to hers is open.

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My wife recently has been asking to go along to lift when I lift at the gym. I don't necessarily have an issue with that, but the fact that she is constantly bugging me about help and asking questions, it kind of takes me out of "the zone". I told her I would be more than willing to help initially, but eventually she would have to get a little less dependent. Take the information I give her about machines, lifts, stretches, etc, and put them in her memory bank.

 

She is an avid runner already but knows very little, if anything at all, about lifting. I have bought her some smaller dumbbells for home use and we already had some that are adjustable up to 25 lbs. She has gotten "bored" with the home lifting and yet also says she hates gyms because "guys just stare" at her. Anyway, what are your thoughts on having a significant other (who has no background lifting) wanting to lift WITH you?

 

Am I being a dick?

Tell your wife that was a great humblebrag.

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I used to workout with an ex, and enjoyed it. I like to help people so that may make a difference. It just got annoying when she would say she couldn't do something (but she could if she tried) ,and when she wouldn't do something because she "didn't want to look like a guy".

Quite a few guys at my new gym workout with girls.

You aren't the guy that runs over to other people that are lifting that you don't know and start offering advice, are you? I'm the type of guy that doesn't do cardio, unless I see a super hot girl doing cardio in the machine next to hers is open.

No, I keep mouth shut. Although there have been times where I have come really close to saying something to younger kids with bad form trying to do as much weight as possible.

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Your not being a dick but I see nothing wrong with your wife wanting to go with you. My wife goes with me to the gym all the time but she has a really good understanding of lifting and very rarely bothers me.

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

You bring your own squat rack to the gym?

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

You bring your own squat rack to the gym?

 

No, but I wanted to use it and they were in my way.

 

 

 

 

 

I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Somewhere other than the squat rack when I want to do squats :)

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My wife wants to lift with me too but I can't get nearly the workout in. Having to drop weight etc and turning down the music ruins my workout. I prefer high intensity in my own world lifting. Only time I talk to someone is if I'm asking for a spot. Otherwise its all business

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Your not being a dick but I see nothing wrong with your wife wanting to go with you. My wife goes with me to the gym all the time but she has a really good understanding of lifting and very rarely bothers me.

See now that's what I guess I need to teach her.

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Your not being a dick but I see nothing wrong with your wife wanting to go with you. My wife goes with me to the gym all the time but she has a really good understanding of lifting and very rarely bothers me.

See now that's what I guess I need to teach her.

 

I would go in on my rest days and help her out and that helped a lot.

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Your not being a dick but I see nothing wrong with your wife wanting to go with you. My wife goes with me to the gym all the time but she has a really good understanding of lifting and very rarely bothers me.

 

See now that's what I guess I need to teach her.

 

 

To be quiet, and do whatever you tell her?

 

I been trying to teach wife that forever. It can't be done. :lol:

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Your not being a dick but I see nothing wrong with your wife wanting to go with you. My wife goes with me to the gym all the time but she has a really good understanding of lifting and very rarely bothers me.

 

See now that's what I guess I need to teach her.

 

 

To be quiet, and do whatever you tell her?

 

I been trying to teach wife that forever. It can't be done. :lol:

 

 

Bahaha! exactly. After 2 years, it's apparent that I just need to SHUT UP.

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

 

 

I don't really have an argument on this either way in general but there were 3 of them. They could've easily spotted the one that was doing the exercise outside of the rack.

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

 

I do my OHPs in the rack also. I set the safety bars right below my bar hooks incase I have to drop the weight. My press goes from my shoulders to full extension and back down. I don't do any cleans for OHP.

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

 

 

I don't really have an argument on this either way in general but there were 3 of them. They could've easily spotted the one that was doing the exercise outside of the rack.

 

Were they doing them with DBs or the bar?

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

 

I do my OHPs in the rack also. I set the safety bars right below my bar hooks incase I have to drop the weight. My press goes from my shoulders to full extension and back down. I don't do any cleans for OHP.

 

Well you only have to clean it once per set. I've added some power cleans to my workout so my form is improving but I could easily clean my shoulder press weight when my form was horrible. You can't lower the weight back down to shoulders on failure? I can't really use the squat rack without hitting the top of the rack so I've always just OHP'd with weight starting on floor. It's always frustrating on squat day when the squat rack is being used for something other than squatting and I have to wait. The squat rack is the only place to safely squat but I don't believe that to be true of other lifts.

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

 

I do my OHPs in the rack also. I set the safety bars right below my bar hooks incase I have to drop the weight. My press goes from my shoulders to full extension and back down. I don't do any cleans for OHP.

 

Well you only have to clean it once per set. I've added some power cleans to my workout so my form is improving but I could easily clean my shoulder press weight when my form was horrible. You can't lower the weight back down to shoulders on failure? I can't really use the squat rack without hitting the top of the rack so I've always just OHP'd with weight starting on floor. It's always frustrating on squat day when the squat rack is being used for something other than squatting and I have to wait. The squat rack is the only place to safely squat but I don't believe that to be true of other lifts.

 

I see what your saying now.

 

I can't power clean or do any cleans because of my wrist. My left wrist is fused and I lost about 80% of the motion in it and it doesn't allow me to rest the bar at the base of my fingers.

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I stared at a bunch of guys at the gym yesterday but that's 'cause they were doing shoulder presses in my squat rack.

I do shoulder presses in the squat rack. I can adjust the height for where I want to pick up and drop the bar and raise the safety bars in case I need to bail out. Where would you suggest people do them? Freestanding every time?

 

Yes! Please don't use the squat rack. You should be able to easily power clean your shoulder press weight and since it's a lighter weight you should be able to bail out by lowering the weight back to your shoulders without any problem. Plus, chicks will be more impressed when you take 135+ lbs off the ground and put it 8 foot up in the air. ;)

 

 

I don't really have an argument on this either way in general but there were 3 of them. They could've easily spotted the one that was doing the exercise outside of the rack.

 

Were they doing them with DBs or the bar?

 

 

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Now to make a reply to the actual post. I have no idea. My dude doesn't lift. He does pull ups, push ups, sit ups, and karate. I'm the one who lifts weights. I don't think I want him to see me doing that.

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My wife and I never go to the gym together. Maybe it's because she uses her "gym time" to go bang some other guy.

Are you sure his name isn't just Jim? Could be a simple misunderstanding.

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My wife and I never go to the gym together. Maybe it's because she uses her "gym time" to go bang some other guy.

Are you sure his name isn't just Jim? Could be a simple misunderstanding.

Now that you say it, she usually says "I am going to DO gym, be back in a couple hours" when she leaves. I just thought she was using bad English.

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My wife and I never go to the gym together. Maybe it's because she uses her "gym time" to go bang some other guy.

Are you sure his name isn't just Jim? Could be a simple misunderstanding.

Now that you say it, she usually says "I am going to DO gym, be back in a couple hours" when she leaves. I just thought she was using bad English.

Doesn't she also say that she is "going to get trained"

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My wife and I never go to the gym together. Maybe it's because she uses her "gym time" to go bang some other guy.

Are you sure his name isn't just Jim? Could be a simple misunderstanding.

Now that you say it, she usually says "I am going to DO gym, be back in a couple hours" when she leaves. I just thought she was using bad English.

See, it's time to let the healing begin. Invite Jim over for a nice bottle of white wine so the 3 of you can get more comfortable. Who knows, you may enjoy Jim time more than Gym time.

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My wife and I never go to the gym together. Maybe it's because she uses her "gym time" to go bang some other guy.

Are you sure his name isn't just Jim? Could be a simple misunderstanding.

Now that you say it, she usually says "I am going to DO gym, be back in a couple hours" when she leaves. I just thought she was using bad English.

See, it's time to let the healing begin. Invite Jim over for a nice bottle of white wine so the 3 of you can get more comfortable. Who knows, you may enjoy Jim time more than Gym time.

 

How you doin? ;)

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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

I've found that running with someone else and talking during really makes the time fly by, even more so than music. Outdoors it also helps you keep a better, more consistent pace.

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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

I've found that running with someone else and talking during really makes the time fly by, even more so than music. Outdoors it also helps you keep a better, more consistent pace.

 

I understand and many times I will go on a run with my wife if we are home and running outside. If I have a preference though, I prefer to run by myself listening to music. It's my meditation time.

 

You see, here is how it goes with my wife (who I love dearly). We will head out on the road jogging. It's a beautiful day with a slight breeze, no traffic and beautiful green grass rolling over the hills. Then, she wants to talk about all her problems at work and how much she if frustrated with this situation or that person....bla bla bla....If I mention to her that I would like to talk about something else, then I'm not being sensitive to her feelings and not willing to talk.

 

In contrast, I run to clear my head of all that junk.

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That would be a drag. I reflect a lot while running, but that helps clear my head. I always feel great with a clear mind after a run, even if I'm in pain.

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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

I've found that running with someone else and talking during really makes the time fly by, even more so than music. Outdoors it also helps you keep a better, more consistent pace.

I understand and many times I will go on a run with my wife if we are home and running outside. If I have a preference though, I prefer to run by myself listening to music. It's my meditation time.

 

You see, here is how it goes with my wife (who I love dearly). We will head out on the road jogging. It's a beautiful day with a slight breeze, no traffic and beautiful green grass rolling over the hills. Then, she wants to talk about all her problems at work and how much she if frustrated with this situation or that person....bla bla bla....If I mention to her that I would like to talk about something else, then I'm not being sensitive to her feelings and not willing to talk.

 

In contrast, I run to clear my head of all that junk.

BRB, I feel like we're married to the same girl.

 

Except every minute of every conversation I have with my wife (who I love dearly too) is about her work, or the kids she teaches.

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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

I've found that running with someone else and talking during really makes the time fly by, even more so than music. Outdoors it also helps you keep a better, more consistent pace.

I understand and many times I will go on a run with my wife if we are home and running outside. If I have a preference though, I prefer to run by myself listening to music. It's my meditation time.

 

You see, here is how it goes with my wife (who I love dearly). We will head out on the road jogging. It's a beautiful day with a slight breeze, no traffic and beautiful green grass rolling over the hills. Then, she wants to talk about all her problems at work and how much she if frustrated with this situation or that person....bla bla bla....If I mention to her that I would like to talk about something else, then I'm not being sensitive to her feelings and not willing to talk.

 

In contrast, I run to clear my head of all that junk.

BRB, I feel like we're married to the same girl.

Except every minute of every conversation I have with my wife (who I love dearly too) is about her work, or the kids she teaches.

Who knew that your SO would want to talk about their life with you!?!!
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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

I've found that running with someone else and talking during really makes the time fly by, even more so than music. Outdoors it also helps you keep a better, more consistent pace.
I understand and many times I will go on a run with my wife if we are home and running outside. If I have a preference though, I prefer to run by myself listening to music. It's my meditation time.

 

You see, here is how it goes with my wife (who I love dearly). We will head out on the road jogging. It's a beautiful day with a slight breeze, no traffic and beautiful green grass rolling over the hills. Then, she wants to talk about all her problems at work and how much she if frustrated with this situation or that person....bla bla bla....If I mention to her that I would like to talk about something else, then I'm not being sensitive to her feelings and not willing to talk.

 

In contrast, I run to clear my head of all that junk.

BRB, I feel like we're married to the same girl.

Except every minute of every conversation I have with my wife (who I love dearly too) is about her work, or the kids she teaches.

Who knew that your SO would want to talk about their life with you!?!!

 

 

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I have no problem with my wife going to the gym together. I mostly use the treadmill, track, bikes...etc. She is slowly learning that I don't like to carry on a big conversation while I'm running..etc. She thinks well, "I can get on a treadmill beside you and we can visit." Ummm....No. I put my tunes in my ears and other than a cordial "hello" to people...I'm not into conversation.

 

Lifting? My wife would want to do all the same lifts I would be doing and that just flat out doesn't work when two people lift such different weights.

 

there is no way I would get as good of workout as if I'm on my own.

I've found that running with someone else and talking during really makes the time fly by, even more so than music. Outdoors it also helps you keep a better, more consistent pace.
I understand and many times I will go on a run with my wife if we are home and running outside. If I have a preference though, I prefer to run by myself listening to music. It's my meditation time.

 

You see, here is how it goes with my wife (who I love dearly). We will head out on the road jogging. It's a beautiful day with a slight breeze, no traffic and beautiful green grass rolling over the hills. Then, she wants to talk about all her problems at work and how much she if frustrated with this situation or that person....bla bla bla....If I mention to her that I would like to talk about something else, then I'm not being sensitive to her feelings and not willing to talk.

 

In contrast, I run to clear my head of all that junk.

BRB, I feel like we're married to the same girl.

Except every minute of every conversation I have with my wife (who I love dearly too) is about her work, or the kids she teaches.

Who knew that your SO would want to talk about their life with you!?!!

 

No no no, don't get me wrong ZRod. I LOVE talking with her about it. But when the same thing comes up in conversation 5 times in 3 hours...then I'm ready to talk about other things by then.

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