Please reconsider. The reason they do that is because when they don't, it's amazing the number of animals that are "adopted" and then returned because they didn't get along with the other animals in the home. This is simply a way to be absolutely certain that both are compatible. If this is the dog you want, it's well worth the time and effort.
my wife and i take great pride in being good dog owners. they really are part of our family. i want to believe that the shelter is doing this because it is in the best interest of the dog and us, but it feels like a power trip.
you are probably right. though. the whole time i was trying to convince myself, what does it hurt having the dogs get more acquainted. but at the same time, i know we are more than capable of acclimating the dogs. but, like you implied, we should not punish the dog if we think we can give it a good home and really want it.
just to be clear, i do understand that getting a dog is a big decision and i would never return a dog (unless it was violent and aggressive with my child or something that severe), i just know we are capable of acclimating the dogs together and resent having to jump through hoops. but we really do like the dog so perhaps we should put our egos aside and keep working at it.