I really think you couldn’t be wrong with your last couple sentences. Frost doesn’t want the shine he just wants to win man. In my opinion his ego has nothing to do with it. I think the issues lies within the fact that he’s often put to much of load on himself because he’s lost conviction and when that happens it’s easiest to fall back on yourself. I struggle with this issue personally in my business every day. Not trusting others with tasks and trying to do it all on my own. I am also wise enough to recognize that this is a sign of a being a poor leader/coach. A great leader will instill his knowledge to his team members and trust them to do what he wants done. I could go on but I truly just think he’s so battered it’s hard for him to be the coach he wants to be right now but he’s working on it. It’s clear that Frost doesn’t have the same conviction he had his first year here when he was coming off his undefeated season. I hope for his sake (and ours) that he can regain his footing and regains confidence in himself, which will empower him to be a greater leader. But I blaming his ego is completely inaccurate and saying he “wants the shine” couldn’t be more untrue.
I think that Scott puts too much pressure on himself and tries too hard. From the moment he arrived he had high expectations. He raised the bar excessively high out of the gate. He's a very determined type of person that believed that he could "make it happen". That's likely served him well in a lot of ways. Forcing things rarely works though. Has he taken opportunities to really reflect?
Being a successful head coach is far more difficult than most of us can fathom. There's a lot more moving pieces to superintend than a position coach. It's like adding drops together then their becoming something out of constituents being combined then managing the mixture. A chemistry lab of sorts whereupon the parts are functioning as one in sync effective what they do collectively through delegation. It's highly nuanced.
It was a daunting task to begin with. He walked into a hot mess. He appears in distress. I think that he genuinely cares, doesn't want to let his players down and doesn't know how to remedy what's been plaguing his team. It's a tall order to fill the role of his incredibly successful coach in Osborne.
Understand, I'm not giving him a free pass. He was ignorant to much of what extent was/is required. The Big 10 will adjust and adapt to us not the other way around. He's made mistakes aplenty. All competitive people "have an ego". But can it be suspended when appropriate, managed? Shining is fine as long as it's secondary to that which supersedes it. And sure, we're feed responses to questions that don't match up with the reality of the situation. It's hard to both deliver the truth and receive it.
We all have flaws and shortcomings.
It's an odd phenomenon. Sometimes when we're so close to something enmeshed in it, we can't recognize what's near us required for solving challenges or even having an awareness that they exist. Difficult to see when in "the thick of things". Good coaches are good observers I think. Orchestrators that deliberate a lot and view the larger picture. However much you love or are passionate about something, you have to learn to hold it like a bird in one's hands. Somewhat firmly but free enough for it to breathe and have life otherwise, it works desperately and much less effectively.
Scott can plea and try to convince however much he wants it to work. More time, etc. It likely won't. It seems that way anyway.