Bar fatigue/burnout?

[darkhorse85]

My favorite bar I can get plowed for about $20. A lot of times less because of happy farmers buying rounds. Small town bars rule. I try not to go on weeknights because that place can be a black hole. Once you get in there you never leave.

 

[NUinID]

My favorite bar I can get plowed for about $20. A lot of times less because of happy farmers buying rounds. Small town bars rule. I try not to go on weeknights because that place can be a black hole. Once you get in there you never leave.

A good dirt farmer bar in any small town in Nebraska is always a good time.

 

[OH HSKR FAN]

Approaching and meeting more people generally makes the experience more fun than just sulking around with a buddy or two. You feel better about the time you spend while you're out.

I'll be in a bar by myself and then I'll get bored and then I will start meeting people. My experiences with this are varied. Sometimes you meet some nice folks. Other times people will act like they are so inconvenienced that you've come up to them and started talking.

Do most of you guys go out by yourselves or with a group of people? Pretty much all the time I go out by myself. Lately I'm seem to be hitting the bars right around a shift change (630-730). Then you get double dinged on tips.

If you start a tab do you pay it out or transfer it to the evening bartender? I've had bartenders close out my tabs after one drink before.

 

[Creighton Duke]

Approaching and meeting more people generally makes the experience more fun than just sulking around with a buddy or two. You feel better about the time you spend while you're out.

I'll be in a bar by myself and then I'll get bored and then I will start meeting people. My experiences with this are varied. Sometimes you meet some nice folks. Other times people will act like they are so inconvenienced that you've come up to them and started talking.

Do most of you guys go out by yourselves or with a group of people? Pretty much all the time I go out by myself. Lately I'm seem to be hitting the bars right around a shift change (630-730). Then you get double dinged on tips.

If you start a tab do you pay it out or transfer it to the evening bartender? I've had bartenders close out my tabs after one drink before.

I am generally out later than 7:30 and I don't really go to Bars/Grilles so I don't have the problem with the tips. Using only cash, I don't get closed out.

If I'm having a night out with friends, I will (obviously) go out with friends. If I'm looking to meet girls, I generally go out by myself since most guys do more to screw your game up than help it. Plus, big groups are intimidating to other people and someone is always getting to drunk. Also, if I'm out by myself and I want to go to a different bar, no problem. If I want to go home, no problem. I do what I want without worrying about the priorities of friends.

People acting inconvenienced that you came up to talk to them is all part of the experience. It sucks, but why talk to a stranger at the bar when you could be browsing THOUSANDS of pictures on Instagram...?

 

[teachercd]

I have not gone to bars alone but I hardly go in big groups...2 or 3 of us is usually it.

As far as talking to people, I will almost never start a conversation with a guy (I have a buddy that does that all the time and it turns super boring, to help ColoHusk out, his initials are GW) but I will chat up girls all the time (I am sure that 90% of those chat-ups result in the girl committing suicide or at the very least, thinking about it)

I also have Bar-ADD...If I get bored or if there are no hot girls...I usually want to leave.

 

[GSG]

Approaching and meeting more people generally makes the experience more fun than just sulking around with a buddy or two. You feel better about the time you spend while you're out.

I'll be in a bar by myself and then I'll get bored and then I will start meeting people. My experiences with this are varied. Sometimes you meet some nice folks. Other times people will act like they are so inconvenienced that you've come up to them and started talking.

Do most of you guys go out by yourselves or with a group of people? Pretty much all the time I go out by myself. Lately I'm seem to be hitting the bars right around a shift change (630-730). Then you get double dinged on tips.

If you start a tab do you pay it out or transfer it to the evening bartender? I've had bartenders close out my tabs after one drink before.

If I have a tab, I always close out with the bartender and tip them before they leave. That usually only happens when if I eat at the actual bar. If I'm just there drinking, I try to use cash, similar to what Creighton Duke was saying

 

[ColoradoHusk]

I have not gone to bars alone but I hardly go in big groups...2 or 3 of us is usually it.

As far as talking to people, I will almost never start a conversation with a guy (I have a buddy that does that all the time and it turns super boring, to help ColoHusk out, his initials are GW) but I will chat up girls all the time (I am sure that 90% of those chat-ups result in the girl committing suicide or at the very least, thinking about it)

I also have Bar-ADD...If I get bored or if there are no hot girls...I usually want to leave.

I will bear witness to Teach's Bar-ADD. I am always leery of walking into a bar, going up to grab some drinks, and then having Teach say "come on, let's go, this place is lame".

 

[teachercd]

I have not gone to bars alone but I hardly go in big groups...2 or 3 of us is usually it.

As far as talking to people, I will almost never start a conversation with a guy (I have a buddy that does that all the time and it turns super boring, to help ColoHusk out, his initials are GW) but I will chat up girls all the time (I am sure that 90% of those chat-ups result in the girl committing suicide or at the very least, thinking about it)

I also have Bar-ADD...If I get bored or if there are no hot girls...I usually want to leave.

I will bear witness to Teach's Bar-ADD. I am always leery of walking into a bar, going up to grab some drinks, and then having Teach say "come on, let's go, this place is lame".

ColoHusk likes to stay in the bar...Double Fist some double Jack and Cokes and then get crazy! He might be my favorite person to hit the bars with...if you get him a shot he smiles, giggles, shakes his head and says "Oh man, whats this" then he downs it like a BOSS!

 

[Creighton Duke]

I have not gone to bars alone but I hardly go in big groups...2 or 3 of us is usually it.

As far as talking to people, I will almost never start a conversation with a guy (I have a buddy that does that all the time and it turns super boring, to help ColoHusk out, his initials are GW) but I will chat up girls all the time (I am sure that 90% of those chat-ups result in the girl committing suicide or at the very least, thinking about it)

I also have Bar-ADD...If I get bored or if there are no hot girls...I usually always want to leave.

I don't talk to too many guys at the bar, but sometimes its good, especially when alone, to gain some type of social proof within the bar. You'd be surprised how talking to a guy for two minutes and buying him a beer will do wonders, him now wanting to introduce you to all of his female barmates! I am also always very polite and cordial to door staff and make a habit of tipping bartenders well and getting to know them so that they become allies when in the bar (many also have some damn interesting stories/life experiences). However, it is pretty easy to tell when other guys are focused solely on the poon and aren't interesting in talking. No point in holding them back or cramping their game.

...and I fixed the second part to apply to my stance on "Bar-ADD" (you should patent that).

 

[teachercd]

I have not gone to bars alone but I hardly go in big groups...2 or 3 of us is usually it.

As far as talking to people, I will almost never start a conversation with a guy (I have a buddy that does that all the time and it turns super boring, to help ColoHusk out, his initials are GW) but I will chat up girls all the time (I am sure that 90% of those chat-ups result in the girl committing suicide or at the very least, thinking about it)

I also have Bar-ADD...If I get bored or if there are no hot girls...I usually always want to leave.

I don't talk to too many guys at the bar, but sometimes its good, especially when alone, to gain some type of social proof within the bar. You'd be surprised how talking to a guy for two minutes and buying him a beer will do wonders, him now wanting to introduce you to all of his female barmates! I am also always very polite and cordial to door staff and make a habit of tipping bartenders well and getting to know them so that they become allies when in the bar (many also have some damn interesting stories/life experiences). However, it is pretty easy to tell when other guys are focused solely on the poon and aren't interesting in talking. No point in holding them back or cramping their game.

...and I fixed the second part to apply to my stance on "Bar-ADD" (you should patent that).

Social Proof is super important and if you can bring a hot girl "friend" with you, that is even better! Then you don't look like a serial killer.

Bar-ADD is not mine, I wish it was, it is ColoHuskers...he coined it after me and a friend of mine.

You are right about chatting up the workers, that can pay huge dividends later...its also how I ended up catching some beave at the old Cigarros...Those in Omaha will remember it!

I like the way you think Cr-Duke...I really do!

 

[OH HSKR FAN]

Are any of you considered regulars at the places you go to? One thing that I don't like is bar drama. I have dealt with that in the past.

 

[teachercd]

Are any of you considered regulars at the places you go to? One thing that I don't like is bar drama. I have dealt with that in the past.

Not that I know of...Boondockers, maybe, because I play volleyball there but that places only drama is in the foundation and structural support beams that hold up the building.

 

[Creighton Duke]

Are any of you considered regulars at the places you go to? One thing that I don't like is bar drama. I have dealt with that in the past.

No, I rotate a bit. I know a lot of bartenders and staff, but not enough to be known as a "regular". Where I live, it really wouldn't pay enough of a dividend to devote a disproportionate amount of time to one place.

What kind of bar drama do you mean? I know there are A LOT of varieties!

 

[OH HSKR FAN]

Some of the bar drama that I don't like.

Husbands/wives/boyfriends/girlfriends that hang out at the bar that their significant other works at while they are working. Do folks have anything better to do with their time? My thinking is someone is getting a heck of a discount.

Bartenders that drink at the worksite after their shift is over. Eight hours in the place is not enough so you have to stay for more?

Playing favorites. A lot of bartenders are guilty of this at times. One place that I use to go to if the friends came over to visit you might as well close your tab because the service is going to go to crap.

Bartenders that bring their personal life into work.

Regulars that have become almost predictable in mannerisms, conversations, etc. It's like a broken record.

 

[ColoradoHusk]

Sounds like Jon Taffer needs to go to the bars you go to.