Facebook statuses and phone calls don't mix?

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cHUSKERis

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I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?

 
cHUSKERis said:
I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?
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Either you're the guy, or you're the support that she wants some other guy to be.

 
cHUSKERis said:
I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?
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Be weary young jedi, broads can be a tricky lot

 
Landlord of Memorial Stadium said:
cHUSKERis said:
I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?
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Either you're the guy, or you're the support that she wants some other guy to be.
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Landlord is right.

Bottom line is, if you like this girl, tell her so and ask her out. Don't hesitate and don't drop hints. Be polite but be direct. Most women appreciate a sense of confidence in the guy and find hesitance and uncertainty to be a turnoff. If she likes you, she'll respond positively. If she waffles or hesitates or plays games, no matter how much you like her, you have to cut emotional ties because she either doesn't like you or she's more interested in playing games than being in a relationship with you.

Good luck.

 
knapplc said:
Landlord of Memorial Stadium said:
cHUSKERis said:
I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?
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Either you're the guy, or you're the support that she wants some other guy to be.
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Landlord is right.

Bottom line is, if you like this girl, tell her so and ask her out. Don't hesitate and don't drop hints. Be polite but be direct. Most women appreciate a sense of confidence in the guy and find hesitance and uncertainty to be a turnoff. If she likes you, she'll respond positively. If she waffles or hesitates or plays games, no matter how much you like her, you have to cut emotional ties because she either doesn't like you or she's more interested in playing games than being in a relationship with you.

Good luck.
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Shes 19, she really has no idea what she wants, your 22 and maybe just maybe starting to figure it out. I'm 35, I'm still working on it, although the GF is pretty cool. Knappic is right, be up front, and dont let her suck you into her games. They might smell nice, but trust me brother they can be rotten to the core...

 
Canttakeitanymore said:
knapplc said:
Landlord of Memorial Stadium said:
cHUSKERis said:
I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?
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Either you're the guy, or you're the support that she wants some other guy to be.
Click to expand...
Landlord is right.

Bottom line is, if you like this girl, tell her so and ask her out. Don't hesitate and don't drop hints. Be polite but be direct. Most women appreciate a sense of confidence in the guy and find hesitance and uncertainty to be a turnoff. If she likes you, she'll respond positively. If she waffles or hesitates or plays games, no matter how much you like her, you have to cut emotional ties because she either doesn't like you or she's more interested in playing games than being in a relationship with you.

Good luck.
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Shes 19, she really has no idea what she wants, your 22 and maybe just maybe starting to figure it out. I'm 35, I'm still working on it, although the GF is pretty cool. Knappic is right, be up front, and dont let her suck you into her games. They might smell nice, but trust me brother they can be rotten to the core...
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All great advice. From an outsider looking in, if you mentioned this to her and this is how she acted, one of two things happened: 1) it's you and she's embarrassed, or 2) it's not you, and she's embarrassed. From my experience, if it was you she was talking about, once you asked about it, she would have responded positively to you.

But then again, we are talking about women here. They rarely say what they want, even if they think that they know what they want.

 
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knapplc said:
Landlord of Memorial Stadium said:
cHUSKERis said:
I was just talking to a girl from work that I like tonight... and I need an outside opinion on the situation I'm in. She's 19 and I'm 22.

I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.

Heres the situation. She posts this on her Facebook a little while before she calls me tonight, I don't see it until during the actual call:

i wish he could see how much i really liked him.... but it doesn't even matter because i will never be good enough... :(

Now I might have made an error by doing this, but I brought it up, saying what was up with her status, and how she shouldn't be so down on herself all the time. I didn't actually bring up the guy thing, but I implied it. She then tries to change the subject, and suddenly "has to go" but tells me to text/call her tomorrow.

Any ideas on what all this means?
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Either you're the guy, or you're the support that she wants some other guy to be.
Click to expand...
Landlord is right.

Bottom line is, if you like this girl, tell her so and ask her out. Don't hesitate and don't drop hints. Be polite but be direct. Most women appreciate a sense of confidence in the guy and find hesitance and uncertainty to be a turnoff. If she likes you, she'll respond positively. If she waffles or hesitates or plays games, no matter how much you like her, you have to cut emotional ties because she either doesn't like you or she's more interested in playing games than being in a relationship with you.

Good luck.
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This by far.

OP, you just gotta go for it. Tell her that you're interested in her and would like to take her out on a date. Be cordial, but be confident. If she says no, then move on. If she says yes, well then you know what you gotta do.

If you continue to drop these playful hints and or just the little at work flirting stuff, that is really all it is ever going to be. Someone has to take initiative and girls aren't generally the ones to do it. Besides, think about how upset you'll be if another guys asks her out and you didn't because you're unsure about how she felt?

Knowing is better than not knowing.

 
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74Hunter said:
All great advice. From an outsider looking in, if you mentioned this to her and this is how she acted, one of two things happened: 1) it's you and she's embarrassed, or 2) it's not you, and she's embarrassed. From my experience, if it was you she was talking about, once you asked about it, she would have responded positively to you.

But then again, we are talking about women here. They rarely say what they want, even if they think that they know what they want.
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Then again, it depends on how it was brought up. He said he 'implied' it and wasn't forthright about it, so it's not like that gives her much incentive to just blurt out what she's really thinking.

In my opinion, OP, you seem like the guy she is interested in. If it was some other guy, then she probably would have said his name when you brought it up. If she avoided it and said she had to go, that comes off as being too embarrassed or nervous to say anything.

I had a friend of mine (a girl) who worked with this guy at Target back when we were in high school. She straight up told me there was no way in hell she was going to tell him how she felt until he made the notion first. She said 'girls aren't supposed to be the first ones to say something'. Blah blah, whatever.

Either way, she never dated this guy (even though I knew him as well, and he said he was really into her but never had the guts to ask her out).

 
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HIT IT, THEN QUIT IT

But seriously, just ask her out. Worst that could happen is you'll still be friends.

 
Gotta agree with Knappster. I asked my lady flat out if i had a chance after we had been hanging out for awhile. She ended up going on a date with me.... over 3 years later....

Ask her,and be honest.

 
I wouldn't be messing around with anyone who posted lame facebook status updates like that. I know it's a typical UGAHusker jerk thing to say, but I went on a first date once with a girl and she changed her status that night to "I had a great time with him tonight :) ". That was the last date we went on...

 
cHUSKERis said:
I like her, but I'm not sure if she really likes me. We flirt at work all the time, but she parties a lot so I'm not sure if its just how she is. Lately though shes been calling me after work and we've been talking late into the night about random stuff.
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The bolded part makes me believe that she is into you, dude. Go for it.

Worst case scenario: She thinks your gay and you're her new gay friend. :lol:

But really, you've got nothing to lose.

 
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