Landlord
Banned
Seriously though, here's the thing.
Feelings and chemistry and spark and all of that is important, but it's not definitive. Feelings are fickle and fade, and everyone suffers from the "grass is greener" syndrome that makes you jealous of some other kids' shiner and newer toy than yours when you were young, or the envy of newer, nicer car that passes by.
Love is ultimately a choice; not a feeling. I'm not married, but ask anyone that has faithfully been married for some time and every single one of them will tell you that they have to choose to love their spouse, and a lot of the days they don't really feel it. So I'd really encourage you to be careful here.
You are the only one that can answer this question for yourself.
Because you are the one that has the best understanding of who the girl you're with really is, what she gives you, how she should be valued and whether or not that is worth it. Is it possible that the relationship is fading and you're attracted to this new girl for a legitimate reason? Yes. Is it also possible that you are being fickle and blinded by what you don't have that you're being ungrateful and not recognizing the gift that you already do? Yep. You might be selling yourself short, or you might be bored and misplacing the reason why.
Regardless of where you're at and what decision you come to, your girlfriend deserves honesty and forthrightness from you. Even if you stick around and work through this with her, I think you owe it to her to let her know that you're having these doubts and frustrations. After three years, she has stuck around with you too, you know? I'd hope you're at that level of intimacy that you can expose that to her, be willing to be vulnerable and let her embrace it. If she doesn't, well then she just made your decision a lot easier.
Feelings and chemistry and spark and all of that is important, but it's not definitive. Feelings are fickle and fade, and everyone suffers from the "grass is greener" syndrome that makes you jealous of some other kids' shiner and newer toy than yours when you were young, or the envy of newer, nicer car that passes by.
Love is ultimately a choice; not a feeling. I'm not married, but ask anyone that has faithfully been married for some time and every single one of them will tell you that they have to choose to love their spouse, and a lot of the days they don't really feel it. So I'd really encourage you to be careful here.
You are the only one that can answer this question for yourself.
Because you are the one that has the best understanding of who the girl you're with really is, what she gives you, how she should be valued and whether or not that is worth it. Is it possible that the relationship is fading and you're attracted to this new girl for a legitimate reason? Yes. Is it also possible that you are being fickle and blinded by what you don't have that you're being ungrateful and not recognizing the gift that you already do? Yep. You might be selling yourself short, or you might be bored and misplacing the reason why.
Regardless of where you're at and what decision you come to, your girlfriend deserves honesty and forthrightness from you. Even if you stick around and work through this with her, I think you owe it to her to let her know that you're having these doubts and frustrations. After three years, she has stuck around with you too, you know? I'd hope you're at that level of intimacy that you can expose that to her, be willing to be vulnerable and let her embrace it. If she doesn't, well then she just made your decision a lot easier.
