We All Love The Huskers & Each Other Hugs

Ulty said:
What are we supposed to do? We can try to simply ignore it, but then again this is a message board. Conversation is the point. Why is she here if she is not receptive to discussion and simply bumps her own threads? Is it a big deal? Not in the whole scheme of things. But if everyone acted like her, this board would be unusable. 
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A few things to share:

First, Roxy has been talked to about her changing her approach to people after recent events, particularly those whom disagree with her, alongside the value of the Ignore function. It is unacceptable to do some of the things happening in there so it has been addressed.

Second, I think we have to be cautious of the 'if everyone did this' argument. Not everyone does do it and everything is relative. Not everyone eye-trolled, but then several people did it and it became a problem. Not everyone doxed other members of the board, but then it happened a couple of times and we had to make it a punishable offense. I believe we're on the record as having said she's not violating any board rules (with the exception of my first point).

Third, and this isn't solely directed at you Ulty, but if anybody doesn't like a thread or a poster on this board then that person is culpable for their behavior towards that thread/person. There's an Ignore function. There's self-control. We don't want to babysit people. As I said in regards to the recent StPaul discussion, people just need to respect themselves and respect one another. That goes for Roxy, that goes for me, that goes for all of you, it goes for everyone. Although her reaction to recent events was reprehensible, it was not a spontaneous event. 

 
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Enhance said:
A few things to share:

First, Roxy has been talked to about her changing her approach to people after recent events, particularly those whom disagree with her, alongside the value of the Ignore function. It is unacceptable to do some of the things happening in there so it has been addressed.

Second, I think we have to be cautious of the 'if everyone did this' argument. Not everyone does do it and everything is relative. Not everyone eye-trolled, but then several people did it and it became a problem. Not everyone doxed other members of the board, but then it happened a couple of times and we had to make it a punishable offense. I believe we're on the record as having said she's not violating any board rules (with the exception of my first point).

Third, and this isn't solely directed at you Ulty, but if anybody doesn't like a thread or a poster on this board then that person is culpable for their behavior towards that thread/person. There's an Ignore function. There's self-control. We don't want to babysit people. As I said in regards to the recent StPaul discussion, people just need to respect themselves and respect one another. That goes for Roxy, that goes for me, that goes for all of you, it goes for everyone. Although her reaction to recent events was reprehensible, it was not a spontaneous event. 
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Is interacting with Roxy against the board rules? That's the way this reads to me, since you're partially placing blame on other people for her behavior again by mentioning babysitting, self-control and saying it wasn't a spontaneous event. It seems to me that we're allowed to tease other members of the board (see the topic where Redux reveals he's into ghost-hunting), but there's a special rule when it comes to Roxy. She can't handle any interaction whatsoever unless it's in the form of a compliment, so we have to not interact with her. And that's not to say all of the responses to that topic were teasing. I legitimately take issue with the statement in the image she posted, and there was nothing wrong with my response to it. I have no problem at all with that topic, so there's no reason to ignore it unless there's some board rule against interacting with Roxy that I have to follow in order to not get in trouble. Although I did say I don't plan on posting in the topic anymore and that's still the case.

 
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Landlord said:
I propose a new official board rule:

Either ignore roxy or compliment her on her music taste and her recipes.
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Yes. I agree that it should be in the official board rules, since we seem to be getting a soft warning that it's an unspoken rule.

 
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Up until the point she went off on Moiraine for literally no reason, I was fine with letting her make a scene, for herself I guess,  in her little bubble.  But that was just ridiculous.

 
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Up until the point she went off on Moiraine for literally no reason, I was fine with letting her make a scene, for herself I guess,  in her little bubble.  But that was just ridiculous.
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It seemed fairly unfair but also was further proof to what many have said: Not worth trying to speak reason to her because she wont hear it.

I thought it was interesting in her response to me she pointed out she doesnt have a problem with me. Almost seemed like she was trying to get me on her side or something.

I think Roxy is a nice gal but I also dont think she should be able to just say whatever she wants without being called out for certain things. 

Her argument about how lying leads to yelling which leads to hitting and then rape made no sense seeing that isnt at all what Moiraine said.

To landlords point, might be best to just ignore her and move on. 

 
Moiraine said:
Is interacting with Roxy against the board rules?
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That's not at all what I said.

I felt the point was fairly simple and the obtuse nature of trying to twist it into something it's not is getting exhausting. We have an Ignore function and we expect board members to exercise self-control. If someone doesn't enjoy engaging with a certain board member, the threads they start, or if the engagement leads to arguments/bickering/board violations, then that's clearly a problem and the members share responsibility in managing it.

Teasing... trolling... 'interacting.' It's a matter of perspective and results are indicative. It's been made clear to Roxy that her response to this recent situation was entirely unacceptable and that there are consequences for doing such, but from my perspective, I think what kindled it all was a) avoidable and that b) the end result was entirely foreseeable.

 
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Okay, let's all be perfectly honest about this.  I'm including myself 100%.  We all took exception to her getting this weird music thread up and running.  Mind you this was after she started the habit of making multiple threads instead of editing the original because she didn't want to learn how.  So she makes this thing and post a thousand music vids in it.  We all hate it but it's stupid to get mad at.  Like me and eye rolls, stupid to be annoyed by but we all were.  So we kind of trolled the thread a little, even tried burying it a couple times.

We were prolly out of line, let's not pretend we aren't adults.  We should have just let the weird kid have her toy.

But upon her return, she is out for blood.  Idk, I won't poke the bear.  I'll try to be less trolly towards her situation from here on out.  But she needs to f#&%in chill.  That should say something coming from me.

 
I've made this point before but the only thing that annoys me about that thread is constantly seeing it on the front page because it was the last thread in the lounge to be posted in. That's it. That's all that bothers me about it. I like to half-a$$ keep up with the miscellaneous topics in the Lounge and that stupid senseless thread is almost always the one that shows on the home page.

Am I being picky? Yes. Am I being selfish not wanting to see it there? Yes. Maybe I navigate the board strangely, I don't know. I've had her on ignore for a few months and it doesn't prevent seeing that topic has been recently posted in by her. Is there a way to ignore a whole topic so I never see sh#t about it again?

I guess there is one other thing that annoys me about it. That topic was not started to share or interact with others on the board. It is a virtual personal scrapbook of music videos intended only for the creator. I guess that's not specifically against the rules but as Ulty said, if everyone did that this board would be a dumpster fire. And it's a poor point to say some behavior is okay as long as it's only one or a few posters but that it magically transforms into a problem only when enough people are doing it.  I sort of think unwritten rule #1 of a message board is that the intent should be to interact with others. If the ignore function made users virtually disappear then that would be the solution but it doesn't help in this case. And it's such a waste of effort. 99.99% of users here can find any music video they want in a heartbeat. Its not like "What are you listening to?" or any related threads because it's not sharing anything about anything. It's simply posting any and every music video that might pop into her head. So #3 reason is that it's a stupid waste of effort and space.

There, I feel better now. Back to ignoring it the best I can.

 
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I've always felt about the same toward the "Last to post wins" thread. That thread is goofy, and it's constantly bumped up to the top of the Lounge.

BUT, unlike the Roxy thread, it's all about interacting with people. The folks who post in it get a kick out of it, and it doesn't hurt anyone. So I ignore it, other than posting "I win" and locking it on April Fool's Day once.

 
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