I, like the OP stated, would also be upset if I was in your shoes. However, I just don't think you can lay all of the blame for the loss on the officiating.
We had OU at Kyle Field three weeks ago and had a similar situation with the officiating. It seemed every call went their way at crucial moments throughout the game. Oklahoma ended up with 4 penalties for 29 yards and we ended up with 13 for 83. Again, this was AT KYLE FIELD! The difference was that we played well enough to take it out of the ref's hands.
You guys can scream all you want about the officiating, but none of you have acknowledged the other areas of the game that played just as big of a role in the loss, if not bigger, than the officiating.
You had two turnovers on drives that could have lead to points. You failed to capitalize on three possessions that started at midfield. THREE! Our terrible punting put you in favorable field position all night. If you manage to drive 25 yards on just one of those possessions, then it could have been a completely different ball game. You had 3:02 left on the clock for your final drive and, once again, you failed to produce points.
Many of have said the questionable roughing the passer penalty gave us an "automatic" field goal because it put us on the 35 yard line. Not true. Our kicking game, as I am sure you noticed, is still a work in progress. No way was that an "automatic" 3 points for us. Even after the penalty, we drove for another 32 yards. Again, you had multiple opportunities to stop us and force a field goal of greater difficulty.
Take a step back and look at the big picture. We are not part of some "Big 12 conspiracy" that is determined to see you fall. Crap, when it comes to your beef with the Big 12 and Beebe being a lap dog for Deloss Dodds, we are right there with you. Please don't lump us in with them.
I can understand your being upset, but there were other factors well within your control that lead to the loss.
Once again, we sure do not wish you guys any ill will and hope you have great success in the Big 10.