Why is it that attractive women almost always say they want a guy with a great sense of humor..

[CornHOLIO]

 

Men are pretty simple creatures, really. If a woman is attractive, we want to meet her. If she turns out to be interesting, intelligent or funny, we want to get to know her better. Women, by contrast, are a little more complicated. They often have grocery lists of prioritized criteria that they use to determine whether or not a guy is datable. And female criteria are significantly more nuanced than the monosyllabic qualities men tend to look for: “nice,” “hot” and “smart.”

 

Recognizing that some guys could use some help understanding the female wish list, we’ve put together this list of the top 10 things women want."

 

No.10 - Independence

 

Women want to know that a man can take care of himself. They want a guy who is capable and independent, able to make his own decisions, pay his rent, and cook himself dinner. Despite what you might think, no woman wants to be your mother (besides, of course, your mother). One of the top 10 things women want is to know that you are capable of carrying your own weight in a relationship. A guy who is in constant need of reassurance, companionship, help, motivation, and advice is a turnoff.

 

No.9 - Looks

 

Women are called the fairer sex for a reason. They’re much, much better looking than we are, what with our sharp angles, our hairy backs and our doughy centers. It is truly one of their great virtues that women are willing to spend so much time in our company despite our undeniably simian appearance.

 

Still, despite their good nature, women care about looks too (if not quite as much as men do). Thus, it wouldn’t hurt to at least try and minimize the degree to which you remind them of a monkey. Women aren’t asking for much. Try to keep yourself well-groomed. Wear clothes that fit, and at least make an effort to keep yourself in shape.

 

No.8 - Positivity

 

Positivity is the next item on our list of the top 10 things women want. Cynicism and sarcasm have their place, but nobody wants to be with someone who is sarcastic and cynical all of the time. It’s exhausting. By contrast, being in the presence of someone with a positive outlook on life can actually be energizing. An optimistic person makes others feel good; his optimism can be contagious, even inspiring. That’s why it’s one of the top 10 things women want.

 

No.7 - Communication skills

 

We often tease women about their capacity for conversation. However, men ignore the female inclination to talk at their peril. Women place a priority on guys they can talk to, who can express themselves and who are at least willing to listen to them when they talk about their concerns, hopes and desires.

 

You should also know that the communication skill that trumps all others is the ability to be attentive. Sometimes, all a woman needs you to do is listen. This is hard for us guys, because we’re very “action-oriented.” We think of every conversation as a prelude to some necessary action (otherwise, why talk?), but that’s not always the case. If you can show a woman you have the capacity to pay attention to her, it will radically improve your chances.

 

No.6 - Sociability

 

A woman wants a guy who can carry on a conversation with her coworkers at a dinner party and also has the good sense not to swear in front of her mother.

 

Women want a guy with a high social IQ. They don’t want a wallflower or the strong silent type. Perhaps, most of all, they just want to know you won’t go catatonic when faced with a group of people you don’t know.

 

No.5 - Intelligence

 

Many women find smarts as sexy as physical appearance. For some of us, this can be frustrating, because, let’s face it, we’d all like to be smarter, and at one time or another we’ve all felt like the dumbest guy in the room. Avoid running your mouth on subjects you know nothing about. Better to be suspected a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

 

No.4 - Passion

 

Passion is another one of the top 10 things women want. The reasons should be pretty obvious. If a woman is thinking about spending any time with you, she’d like to know that she can look forward to adventure, excitement, commitment, devotion, and great sex. Thus, if a guy wants to be wanted, he has to show a woman he’s passionate.

 

Enthusiastically extolling the virtues of your fantasy baseball team is OK, but it’s much better to be passionate about something a little more serious, like your job or a humanitarian cause. Women love to see that you’re passionate, because in their minds passion in one sphere of life that can be transferred into another sphere of life, namely the bedroom.

 

No.3 - Sense of humor

 

A good sense of humor is one of the qualities women almost always mention when listing off the things they look for in a man. We all know how much more fun funny people are than dull, grumpy people. Now this does not mean you need to be “the life of the party.” Women typically don’t gravitate toward drunken buffoons. A good sense of humor just means you know how to tell and take a joke.

 

No.2 - Ambition

 

Men too often think that all women care about is money, but that’s nonsense. Sure it may be true of some women, just as it’s true of some men, but women aren’t characteristically attracted to rich guys. The reason women gravitate toward men with successful careers isn’t because of the size of their paychecks, but rather because their success at work is indicative of certain attractive personality traits: commitment, discipline, strong work ethic -- all of which are things that will likely make a guy a good partner.

 

No.1 - Confidence

 

As you’ve read over this list of the top 10 things women want, you’ve probably noted some areas in which you excel and others you could work on. Maybe you’re a smart, sociable guy with a great sense of humor, but you could use some help in the ambition department. Maybe you’re a great-looking guy with expert communication skills, but you’ve yet to find the one thing you’re really passionate about. Here’s the good news: Confidence is the one thing women consistently say they want in a man.

 

Confidence is king. That means even if you can’t categorize yourself as “the total package,” as long as you feel good about what you have to offer, and as long as you’re comfortable with yourself, you have a shot.

 

Sounds good in theory, but I would say that the majority of those traits apply to me. I am FAR from perfect, and I make mistakes, but I'm not like alot of dudes I know. I remember one night my last ex-girlfriend and I were sitting in her living room and she told me about how this guy hit her, this guy cheated on her, this guy disrespected her, and this guy tried to control her, etc. I was thinking to myself "Well, she won't have to worry about that with me." The funny thing is when we broke up, she was hysterical and told me that "My friends all like you, my family loves you, I'm not sure what I'm doing." Her mom even told her that I was "Almost too nice." Go figure.

 

I understand that I sometimes have issues with communication because I am somewhat introverted, and at times, it takes me a little while to get to know people and warm up to them. I have to know what I have in common with someone before really engaging them, which some of my closest friends will tell you.

 

The last ex-gf told me that we had communication issues and that positivity was somewhat lacking. She would say that I am a good, attentive listener but I don't always have an answer. Apparently she wanted long-drawn out conversations about worldly events, but I did not engage in them with her every day, and yet she would not really bring them up to me. She told me that I am "so deep and intelligent" but I don't always show enough passion for things that she felt were important.

 

The negativity is an issue that I have because my "ex" (not last ex-gf) was a very, very negative person. She would talk for hours about how horrible her day was, how much she hated her co-workers, clients, or family, and it just became normal for me to focus on such things, unfortunatley. Also, when the last ex-gf and I were together, we were going through very similar difficult periods in our lives: grad school, deaths in the family, work issues, etc., and last winter (in Omaha) was long, horrible and depressing, which took alot out of me. I was hoping that since we were in similar situations, she would have either been more willing to talk to me about things that were bothering her, or she would have been more understanding.

 

Oh well, off rant. Sorry for tooting my own horn a little, thanks for the opportunity to vent.

 

The whole "being an a-hole" thing might get you a girl, but I'm pretty sure you won't keep them that way. Trust me. I just got out of a relationship with an a-hole. One reason I ended it was because it was either end it or try to change the guy. And I don't want to be one of those girls you guys are talking about, haha! As far as I can tell, all guys are at least slightly assholish; all the men I know are. Girls should for sure be able to put up with assholery to a certain extent.

 

I knew when I signed up for this board that I'd be a minority and since I spend most of my time around dudes I'm used to it. I gotta say though; any chick that wants to change you isn't the right one for you, any dude who just wants a chick to bang and to cook for him can hardly be called a "man". Act like a boy and you're gonna attract girls. Act like a man and you're gonna attract women.

 

But anyway yeah. Chicks are totally bogus. Amiright?

IDK, I've seen plenty of very attractive women that are with dudes that are just straight up a-holes. They admit it and complain about the dudes, yet they put up with the supposed "crap" that their guy deals out. I've also seen women that are with dudes that may have been attractive and charasmatic when they were younger, but now are fat, beer-swilling, Playstation playing couch potatoes that have the personality of your typical coffee table. That, or they are just lying about their dudes.

 

 

IDK, I've found and some "experts" will tell you, A guys natural thing is to fix problems, but most women don't want you to fix their problems, they just want a sounding board to listen to their complaints.

[74Hunter]

IDK, I've found and some "experts" will tell you, A guys natural thing is to fix problems, but most women don't want you to fix their problems, they just want a sounding board to listen to their complaints.

I've heard that to, and that is what I've done. Sometimes, a guy can't win.

[Cina]

The whole "being an a-hole" thing might get you a girl, but I'm pretty sure you won't keep them that way. Trust me. I just got out of a relationship with an a-hole. One reason I ended it was because it was either end it or try to change the guy. And I don't want to be one of those girls you guys are talking about, haha! As far as I can tell, all guys are at least slightly assholish; all the men I know are. Girls should for sure be able to put up with assholery to a certain extent.

 

I knew when I signed up for this board that I'd be a minority and since I spend most of my time around dudes I'm used to it. I gotta say though; any chick that wants to change you isn't the right one for you, any dude who just wants a chick to bang and to cook for him can hardly be called a "man". Act like a boy and you're gonna attract girls. Act like a man and you're gonna attract women.

 

 

 

 

But anyway yeah. Chicks are totally bogus. Amiright?

 

I hope that bolded part wasn't for me. I definitely don't need anyone to cook for me

 

Not meant for anyone in particular, just a general statement

[UGAHusker]

The whole "being an a-hole" thing might get you a girl, but I'm pretty sure you won't keep them that way. Trust me. I just got out of a relationship with an a-hole. One reason I ended it was because it was either end it or try to change the guy. And I don't want to be one of those girls you guys are talking about, haha! As far as I can tell, all guys are at least slightly assholish; all the men I know are. Girls should for sure be able to put up with assholery to a certain extent.

 

I knew when I signed up for this board that I'd be a minority and since I spend most of my time around dudes I'm used to it. I gotta say though; any chick that wants to change you isn't the right one for you, any dude who just wants a chick to bang and to cook for him can hardly be called a "man". Act like a boy and you're gonna attract girls. Act like a man and you're gonna attract women.

 

 

 

But anyway yeah. Chicks are totally bogus. Amiright?

 

This seems like a facebook status update of someone who is pissed at their boyfriend/husband.

[zoogs]

The a-hole thing is guys who are frustrated because girls leave them/pass them over for a-holes. We don't really want to be one, and we aren't.

 

Here's a question: since girls are supposedly often wanting to change guys (whatever it means); do they want guys who will change them?

[Cina]

The a-hole thing is guys who are frustrated because girls leave them/pass them over for a-holes. We don't really want to be one, and we aren't.

 

Here's a question: since girls are supposedly often wanting to change guys (whatever it means); do they want guys who will change them?

 

That's a negative, ghostrider. Also I should add that not all girls attempt to "change" guys. I never want to be one of those girls. As much as I've wanted to change a guy, I recognize utter futility when I see it. Although it seems the common dominator in this thread is guys who have had girls try and change them, so it seems to be an epidemic stretching back since the days of Yore.

 

I can't speak for all of us (although I've done my fair share of it here!) but girls, it seems, want what everyone truly wants: someone who will see them for who they really are and love them anyway.

[okaive]

but girls, it seems, want what everyone truly wants: someone who will see them for who they really are and love them anyway.

 

 

Oh you truly left this open for some harsh sarcasm, but I will refrain from typing it. hahaha

[AR Husker Fan]

The a-hole thing is guys who are frustrated because girls leave them/pass them over for a-holes. We don't really want to be one, and we aren't.

 

Here's a question: since girls are supposedly often wanting to change guys (whatever it means); do they want guys who will change them?

 

That's a negative, ghostrider. Also I should add that not all girls attempt to "change" guys. I never want to be one of those girls. As much as I've wanted to change a guy, I recognize utter futility when I see it. Although it seems the common dominator in this thread is guys who have had girls try and change them, so it seems to be an epidemic stretching back since the days of Yore.

 

***SNIP***

But the first time he leaves the toilet seat up at night...

[Cina]

The a-hole thing is guys who are frustrated because girls leave them/pass them over for a-holes. We don't really want to be one, and we aren't.

 

Here's a question: since girls are supposedly often wanting to change guys (whatever it means); do they want guys who will change them?

 

That's a negative, ghostrider. Also I should add that not all girls attempt to "change" guys. I never want to be one of those girls. As much as I've wanted to change a guy, I recognize utter futility when I see it. Although it seems the common dominator in this thread is guys who have had girls try and change them, so it seems to be an epidemic stretching back since the days of Yore.

 

***SNIP***

But the first time he leaves the toilet seat up at night...

 

 

I've never understood what the big deal is there. Guys don't seem to be annoyed with having to put it up. Are there really girls out there who get mad about this?!

[mmmtodd]

 

i dont even know where to begin.

 

I recommend world of warcraft or the sims.

 

I thank everyone involved for the slightly uncomfortable laughs.

 

thats all i got.

[okaive]

Oh man, I got my ass reemed because the seat was up and I wasn't even dating her.

[killer cacti]

I've never understood what the big deal is there. Guys don't seem to be annoyed with having to put it up. Are there really girls out there who get mad about this?!

Yes.

[CornHOLIO]

I've never understood what the big deal is there. Guys don't seem to be annoyed with having to put it up. Are there really girls out there who get mad about this?!

Yes.

 

Nice, short, and to the point.

 

 

I only pee standing up when I'm in the back yard.

[74Hunter]

I've never understood what the big deal is there. Guys don't seem to be annoyed with having to put it up. Are there really girls out there who get mad about this?!

Yes.

+1

 

I guess I was the only one in the relationship who was smart enough to look where I sat before I sat down