Could you marry a virgin?..Would you?

[NUance]

You misunderstand me. I'm not saying that as in "I don't care if she's good as long as she's got two legs and a vagina so I can have sex with her oh baby yes I am the man alright!"

 

I'm saying it as in "However 'good' or 'bad' or 'compatible' my wife is, she'll be more than enough."

I see where both sides are coming from. And neither will convince the other to agree with your view, or reach a middle ground. So you may as well agree to disagree.

 

 

 

 

 

/On a side note, that Kung Fu dude has some really freaky looking eyes.

[CornHOLIO]

Have you had sex and/or are you married?

 

Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship. If you don't know that yet you will probably know it eventually. It's not everything . . . but it is very important. You are absolutely correct that marriage needs elements of sacrifice and selfishness. It also needs some compatibility in the bedroom.

 

 

I have had sex. Am not married. And the only compatibility needed is compatible sex organs.

 

Spoken like a typical guy..

 

( I just wish this kind of info was this easy to get back when I was in school...We had to read books on fertility and the rhythm method in Love Library while trying to cover up the book titles back then..And some of the books still denied anything about G spots or naughty parts to wave around)..

 

 

 

There's much more to it than busting a nut, Grasshopper..

 

You misunderstand me. I'm not saying that as in "I don't care if she's good as long as she's got two legs and a vagina so I can have sex with her oh baby yes I am the man alright!"

 

I'm saying it as in "However 'good' or 'bad' or 'compatible' my wife is, she'll be more than enough."

 

She may be, but will you?

Kidding around a little, but marrying a virgin may be a hedge against poor compairisons on the man's part later on.

[knapplc]

There are benefits and drawbacks to both.

 

Marry a virgin:

 

Benefits: No diseases. No comparisons. No preconceived notions (or preconceived children).

Drawbacks: Experience could be a problem. Education could be a problem. Lack of compatibility could be a problem. None of these things being sorted through prior to marriage could be a huge detriment.

 

Marry a non-virgin:

 

Benefits: You know you're compatible. You know she's "experienced."

Drawbacks: Disease could be an issue. Comparing you to others could be an issue. "Settling" for you could be an issue. She may have children from a previous marriage.

 

 

I've known, in my immediate family, people who fall under all four categories. Funny thing - my mom married my dad with my sister and I in tow. He considered it a benefit, but he's a rare angel among humans.

[The Dude]

You misunderstand me. I'm not saying that as in "I don't care if she's good as long as she's got two legs and a vagina so I can have sex with her oh baby yes I am the man alright!"

 

I'm saying it as in "However 'good' or 'bad' or 'compatible' my wife is, she'll be more than enough."

I think that's honorable enough. I also think it would be fairly selfish to expect your wife to feel the same.

 

An example of where I'm coming from in this topic is a girl I dated just after high school. We were head over heels in love with each other. We even talked about marriage, but after a while we had to admit to each other that whatever connection we shared emotionally, we just didn't have physically. For whatever reason that spark just wasn't there. It certainly changed the way we looked at our relationship. It happens. It's not that the sex wasn't "fun", that's almost always fun. I honestly don't think you can have a great intimate connection with just anyone, even if the love is there. I don't think it would've been fair to either one of us to find that out after we got married. It has nothing to do with expecting your wife to be a porn star in bed like the guy in your video suggested. But I could see how that's what you thought I meant with my initial response to you. That's my fault.