How many of you guys have lost friends to marriage?

[teachercd]

"Want to grab a Happy Hour drink on Friday"

 

That question is usually met with the sound of crickets from married friends! haha

[Ratt Mhule]

"Want to grab a Happy Hour drink on Friday"

 

That question is usually met with the sound of crickets from married friends! haha

 

I guess your just going to have to get married then

[teachercd]

"Want to grab a Happy Hour drink on Friday"

 

That question is usually met with the sound of crickets from married friends! haha

 

I guess your just going to have to get married then

 

HAHA, its a win win

[HuskerShark]

I have one married friend and I see him two weekends a month. I don't do anything during the week, so that is pretty good.

 

While on the other hand, I have friends in long committed relationships/engaged and they never want to do anything. Just depends on the people, not the fact if they are married or not.

 

I think the opposite could also be true. They DO want to do something. Just not with you.

 

You're probably right. Im a huge douche and nobody ever wants to hang out with me.

 

Edit: I think I know what you're trying to say, but just the way you said it is very vindictive. Like I'm the reason they never want to hang out.

 

I believe knapp was talking about sexual intercourse.

[Hingle McCringleberry]

Most of my friends were really social right after the wedding, then tapered off a little, then into a black hole once the first kid came along. I found after kid number two they start wanting time away from the house (especially the wives who want to reassert their individuality a little), and spend it with adults, not crying little people... It's different, but still fun to have them around...

[fro daddy]

HA!

 

No, I guess I should say, how many of you find it very difficult to get your married friends out. Like, even for happy hour

 

well you have to consider that your married friend has more than just themselves to think about now. It does depend on the person, but I would think most married couples, especially newer married couples, like spending lots of time together. I really only see my wife for a few hours a day. And nearly every minute of that time is after I get home from work.

 

I have an opposite issue with that sometimes. I am married with 2 kids and I rarely ever get asked to do anything. My friends stopped asking because they like to call on the way to the bar, or when they are already there. They give me no time to plan. I have to work around the schedules and needs of 3 others besides myself and sometimes its just not that easy. I think they believe that i dont want to do anything anymore because the can'ts outnumber the I cans.

[Enhance]

OP, I've had this problem with a good friend of mine for the last six years.

 

He married his girlfriend just last summer once he graduated (in three years, mind you - he graduated quickly so they could get married sooner). In high school, they constantly bickered and were extremely jealous if one another was talking to a member of the opposite sex even for a brief moment. They fought a lot and he spent a lot of time trying to cool down arguments. He also had to consistently lie about what he was doing with his friends, because if she ever found out he was drinking underage, they probably would have broken up. From the very beginning, I never really liked their relationship.

 

For the last couple of years, it's been a huge song and dance of hanging out with him when it's convenient - for him. Once he got married, it became worse. He would never leave his apartment except to go to work or hang out with their new married couple friends, because once you get married, I guess you join a cult of hanging out with other married couples all the time. He always had some arbitrary reason for making me come to his place, even when his fiance was there, so we could hang out. Overall, just a very lazy friend.

 

Now, I completely understand what many people call the "honeymoon phase." I haven't been the best friend, either. I've had a girlfriend for the same amount of time, and I've chosen her over my friends, but we were never in a huge rush to start our lives and become a reclusive married couple like they have.

 

He only EVER asks me to hang out on one night of the week, when his wife conveniently works a night shift. Otherwise, hanging out is essentially a no-go. It's not just being married that's hurt our friendship - his constant need to not upset her and do what she wanted is what led him to choose her over his friends

[knapplc]

I think there's also the fact that friendships change over time. The guy I roomed with for three years, the best man at my wedding, lives 50 miles away and we never speak, email, text or get together anymore. It's not that I don't like him, it's just that our lives changed, and interests changed. I have zero doubt we'd have a great time if we got together again, but we're just not the same people we were when we were 20-25.

[GM_Tood]

I wear the pants in my marriage...and can go out whenever and with whomever I want.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

yeah right. But I do get a couple nights a week I can get out of the house...volleyball/poker.

[knapplc]

Did you have to get special permission to come to the bar with us?

[PaulCrewe]

I would rather hang out with geeks from the interweb than hangout with my friends.

 

But in all seriousness, my best friend(best man at my wedding) is a pain in the ass to get to hang out. It is his wife. She hates our inner circle of friends, and the feeling is mutual. He just bitches about her when we do hang out. Hate to say if we didn't try to warn him.

 

I think the moving away for jobs, play part for us, than the rest of our wives.

 

And I look for any excuse to hang out with other humans other than my wife from time to time. Especially interweb geeks.

[teachercd]

Let me ask you guys this one, the married guys, can you just call/text and say "I am meeting so and so out for a few drinks, see you by 9pm"

[teachercd]

OP, I've had this problem with a good friend of mine for the last six years.

 

He married his girlfriend just last summer once he graduated (in three years, mind you - he graduated quickly so they could get married sooner). In high school, they constantly bickered and were extremely jealous if one another was talking to a member of the opposite sex even for a brief moment. They fought a lot and he spent a lot of time trying to cool down arguments. He also had to consistently lie about what he was doing with his friends, because if she ever found out he was drinking underage, they probably would have broken up. From the very beginning, I never really liked their relationship.

 

For the last couple of years, it's been a huge song and dance of hanging out with him when it's convenient - for him. Once he got married, it became worse. He would never leave his apartment except to go to work or hang out with their new married couple friends, because once you get married, I guess you join a cult of hanging out with other married couples all the time. He always had some arbitrary reason for making me come to his place, even when his fiance was there, so we could hang out. Overall, just a very lazy friend.

 

Now, I completely understand what many people call the "honeymoon phase." I haven't been the best friend, either. I've had a girlfriend for the same amount of time, and I've chosen her over my friends, but we were never in a huge rush to start our lives and become a reclusive married couple like they have.

 

He only EVER asks me to hang out on one night of the week, when his wife conveniently works a night shift. Otherwise, hanging out is essentially a no-go. It's not just being married that's hurt our friendship - his constant need to not upset her and do what she wanted is what led him to choose her over his friends

 

 

That sounds like a lame friend!

[PaulCrewe]

Let me ask you guys this one, the married guys, can you just call/text and say "I am meeting so and so out for a few drinks, see you by 9pm"

Hell yeah. Now the Cold War that may result upon arrival may be another story.

 

More or less, Wifey doesn't sweat it if there is a little heads up involved. She knows most the peeps I hang with. I tell her to go ahead and hang with her friends all the time. It is just that I am so much COOLER that people want to be seen with me

[teachercd]

Let me ask you guys this one, the married guys, can you just call/text and say "I am meeting so and so out for a few drinks, see you by 9pm"

Hell yeah. Now the Cold War that may result upon arrival may be another story.

 

More or less, Wifey doesn't sweat it if there is a little heads up involved. She knows most the peeps I hang with. I tell her to go ahead and hang with her friends all the time. It is just that I am so much COOLER that people want to be seen with me

 

 

Love it! ha