funhusker Posted July 11, 2013 Share Posted July 11, 2013 I'm in my early 30's, married, have 3 young kids (not old enough for sports), live in West Omaha, and have no time for leisurely "hanging out". I have plenty of friends but we have spread out. Even though Lincoln, Gretna, and other spots are close; it is a pain in the *ss to get together for a few beers unless you want to make a night of it including babysitters and spouses.....and a personal assistant to handle everyones's schedules Our neighborhood consists of people much older than us, my coworkers are mostly in another zipcode, and my wife's coworkers are all female. Hell, I can't move a couch to the basement without planning it for 2 weeks. More or less, I'm just venting about getting older, and having responsibilities. Just looking for advice on how to make the transition easier. Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 11, 2013 Author Share Posted July 11, 2013 Holy Sh*t - that reads like a Craigslist ad... 4 Quote Link to comment
NUinID Posted July 11, 2013 Share Posted July 11, 2013 Good question, I personally don't have an answer for you. I am in the same sort of boat where I live. Moved to Idaho 2 years ago and would say don't really have anyone to hang out with. We have met some people but most are through going to church. Nothing wrong with that, but I don't want all my social events to revolve around religion. Be nice to have a couple or 2 that my wife and I could go to dinner with once in a while and have a drink with. Quote Link to comment
teachercd Posted July 11, 2013 Share Posted July 11, 2013 I'm in my early 30's, married, have 3 young kids (not old enough for sports), live in West Omaha, and have no time for leisurely "hanging out". I have plenty of friends but we have spread out. Even though Lincoln, Gretna, and other spots are close; it is a pain in the *ss to get together for a few beers unless you want to make a night of it including babysitters and spouses.....and a personal assistant to handle everyones's schedules Our neighborhood consists of people much older than us, my coworkers are mostly in another zipcode, and my wife's coworkers are all female. Hell, I can't move a couch to the basement without planning it for 2 weeks. More or less, I'm just venting about getting older, and having responsibilities. Just looking for advice on how to make the transition easier. Honestly dude, make it a priority. Make each Husker away game when you and your friends meet at a bar to hang out. The dates are set far in advance so that is not a problem. Make each Husker home game a day where you and them go to Lincoln and/or a bar to watch it. I know that only covers about 3 months but it is a start. You will probably have to nag some of them about it, but do it, it is worth it. Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 11, 2013 Author Share Posted July 11, 2013 I have a feeling this is a common problem for a lot of guys our age. The "beer commercial" world of a group of guys hanging out (after different jobs and lifestyles) and getting into "shenanigans" doesn't really exist after the age of 25. However, I come from a small town where I had a dozen cousins and family friends within 5 miles; not the case anymore where "close" means 15-20 miles through town... Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 11, 2013 Author Share Posted July 11, 2013 I'm in my early 30's, married, have 3 young kids (not old enough for sports), live in West Omaha, and have no time for leisurely "hanging out". I have plenty of friends but we have spread out. Even though Lincoln, Gretna, and other spots are close; it is a pain in the *ss to get together for a few beers unless you want to make a night of it including babysitters and spouses.....and a personal assistant to handle everyones's schedules Our neighborhood consists of people much older than us, my coworkers are mostly in another zipcode, and my wife's coworkers are all female. Hell, I can't move a couch to the basement without planning it for 2 weeks. More or less, I'm just venting about getting older, and having responsibilities. Just looking for advice on how to make the transition easier. Honestly dude, make it a priority. Make each Husker away game when you and your friends meet at a bar to hang out. The dates are set far in advance so that is not a problem. Make each Husker home game a day where you and them go to Lincoln and/or a bar to watch it. I know that only covers about 3 months but it is a start. You will probably have to nag some of them about it, but do it, it is worth it. I don't have a problem with "events", We gather and we have fun. My question is how to "fill in the gaps". How to move a couch without organizing a reunion? How to have a place to go when the wife pisses you off that doesn't require a trip to the gas station? Don't get me wrong, I'm happy to help move a couch or offer a "beer and ear", I just wish it didn't require a moving truck and realtors to be closer to buddies.... TeacherCD, I also teach and I'm in the middle of summer, maybe I'm just suffering from cabin fever. Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 11, 2013 Author Share Posted July 11, 2013 Do you have his number? He looks like he can feed my dog when I take the wife and kids to World's of Fun... Quote Link to comment
B.B. Hemingway Posted July 11, 2013 Share Posted July 11, 2013 Do you have his number? He looks like he can feed my dog when I take the wife and kids to World's of Fun... 1 Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 11, 2013 Author Share Posted July 11, 2013 Do you have his number? He looks like he can feed my dog when I take the wife and kids to World's of Fun... Well played...d**k (seriously, I laughed hard!) Quote Link to comment
Creighton Duke Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 I have a feeling this is a common problem for a lot of guys our age. The "beer commercial" world of a group of guys hanging out (after different jobs and lifestyles) and getting into "shenanigans" doesn't really exist after the age of 25. However, I come from a small town where I had a dozen cousins and family friends within 5 miles; not the case anymore where "close" means 15-20 miles through town... Speak for yourself 1 Quote Link to comment
The Dude Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 have no time for leisurely "hanging out". That could be an issue. Quote Link to comment
NUance Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Maybe join a softball team. Or take up archery or some other hobby where you can meet guys. OTOH, the best group of buddies I had to hang out with was back in college. Of course we all scattered upon graduation. I haven't had a similar group of pals since. Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 12, 2013 Author Share Posted July 12, 2013 have no time for leisurely "hanging out". That could be an issue. BINGO! I feel bad/weird about asking the guy I hardly know to come move furniture because my wife all of a sudden feels the playroom should be an office and not feel as if I should pay him in cash, food, beer. Quote Link to comment
funhusker Posted July 12, 2013 Author Share Posted July 12, 2013 Maybe join a softball team. Or take up archery or some other hobby where you can meet guys. OTOH, the best group of buddies I had to hang out with was back in college. Of course we all scattered upon graduation. I haven't had a similar group of pals since. Nuance, it isn't about having an "outlet" on a weekly basis, I have that. We meet somewhere at a central location. It is more about finding "buddies" after settling down that don't involve the awkward feeling of being your "wife's friend doing you a favor". I agree, my best friends today are from college and my work that isn't really close to home. Quote Link to comment
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