Could you marry a virgin?..Would you?

[MLB 51]

[The Dude]

That's a hell of a commitment to make with someone without knowing if you're sexually compatible. So, no it's a bad idea.

No chance. Lets just leave aside the religious chasm that would be between us for a second. I need to know if I'm sexually compatible with someone before thats the only person I will, perhaps, ever have sex with again.

 

This thread needs a poll.

 

 

You have a penis and she a vagina, correct?

That has f#*k all to do with whether or not someone is mindbogglingly boring in the sack.

 

 

This is a disgusting view of sex and marriage. You're implying that someone who isn't highly entertaining and pleasing in sex is less worthy of marriage or superior to someone else who isn't.

Oh bullsh#t. Sex is a very, very important part of a relationship. If you and/or your partner aren't happy there it can put a lot of strain on a relationship. That lady who is a "dead fish" to one guy could have an entirely different intimate connection with another guy. I think if you're going to commit yourself to someone else for the rest of your life, it should be the right person. Sex is a monumental factor that shouldn't be ignored. And yes, marriage requires a large amount of selflessness, but not at the cost of being unhappy.

[Landlord]

Oh bullsh#t. Sex is a very, very important part of a relationship. If you and/or your partner aren't happy there it can put a lot of strain on a relationship. That lady who is a "dead fish" to one guy could have an entirely different intimate connection with another guy. I think if you're going to commit yourself to someone else for the rest of your life, it should be the right person. Sex is a monumental factor that shouldn't be ignored. And yes, marriage requires a large amount of selflessness, but not at the cost of being unhappy.

 

 

You're right. It is a very, very important part of a relationship. You're the one that wants to minimalize and take casually it's importance by testing out the candidates. Watch the video I posted.

[The Dude]

Oh bullsh#t. Sex is a very, very important part of a relationship. If you and/or your partner aren't happy there it can put a lot of strain on a relationship. That lady who is a "dead fish" to one guy could have an entirely different intimate connection with another guy. I think if you're going to commit yourself to someone else for the rest of your life, it should be the right person. Sex is a monumental factor that shouldn't be ignored. And yes, marriage requires a large amount of selflessness, but not at the cost of being unhappy.

 

 

You're right. It is a very, very important part of a relationship. You're the one that wants to minimalize and take casually it's importance by testing out the candidates. Watch the video I posted.

 

It's not a matter of simply testing out candidates. That would imply it's the only criteria for choosing a spouse. I've been with girls that were rock stars in bed, but I wouldn't consider spending the rest of my life with them for various other reasons. Just because someone is dynamite in bed is not a good reason to marry them. I think if you're going to marry someone, you should be sure you're going to be able to satisfy each other in most facets of life. Sex is a big one for humans.

 

I couldn't help thinking that guy in your video was a judgmental ass hat by suggesting the person who posed the question is a porn addict.

[krc1995]

Depends on how long the pre-marriage dating/engagement has to last. That could be a long time with zero action.

If after 6 months she can't stop herself from jumping you, she really doesn't find you attractive and there is no future anyway.

[Foppa]

No. Sort of sadly....no.

[Landlord]

Oh bullsh#t. Sex is a very, very important part of a relationship. If you and/or your partner aren't happy there it can put a lot of strain on a relationship. That lady who is a "dead fish" to one guy could have an entirely different intimate connection with another guy. I think if you're going to commit yourself to someone else for the rest of your life, it should be the right person. Sex is a monumental factor that shouldn't be ignored. And yes, marriage requires a large amount of selflessness, but not at the cost of being unhappy.

 

 

You're right. It is a very, very important part of a relationship. You're the one that wants to minimalize and take casually it's importance by testing out the candidates. Watch the video I posted.

 

It's not a matter of simply testing out candidates. That would imply it's the only criteria for choosing a spouse. I've been with girls that were rock stars in bed, but I wouldn't consider spending the rest of my life with them for various other reasons. Just because someone is dynamite in bed is not a good reason to marry them. I think if you're going to marry someone, you should be sure you're going to be able to satisfy each other in most facets of life. Sex is a big one for humans.

 

I couldn't help thinking that guy in your video was a judgmental ass hat by suggesting the person who posed the question is a porn addict.

 

 

He makes a valid point - you either have expectations based on personal experience or based on watching pornography and 99% of the time because of both. If you and your wife have only ever been with each other, you can be damn sure that you'll perceive each other as sexually compatible.

[The Dude]

Oh bullsh#t. Sex is a very, very important part of a relationship. If you and/or your partner aren't happy there it can put a lot of strain on a relationship. That lady who is a "dead fish" to one guy could have an entirely different intimate connection with another guy. I think if you're going to commit yourself to someone else for the rest of your life, it should be the right person. Sex is a monumental factor that shouldn't be ignored. And yes, marriage requires a large amount of selflessness, but not at the cost of being unhappy.

 

 

You're right. It is a very, very important part of a relationship. You're the one that wants to minimalize and take casually it's importance by testing out the candidates. Watch the video I posted.

 

It's not a matter of simply testing out candidates. That would imply it's the only criteria for choosing a spouse. I've been with girls that were rock stars in bed, but I wouldn't consider spending the rest of my life with them for various other reasons. Just because someone is dynamite in bed is not a good reason to marry them. I think if you're going to marry someone, you should be sure you're going to be able to satisfy each other in most facets of life. Sex is a big one for humans.

 

I couldn't help thinking that guy in your video was a judgmental ass hat by suggesting the person who posed the question is a porn addict.

 

 

He makes a valid point - you either have expectations based on personal experience or based on watching pornography and 99% of the time because of both. If you and your wife have only ever been with each other, you can be damn sure that you'll perceive each other as sexually compatible.

 

If perception is good enough for some people, that's great. I have no problem with that. Perception and reality can be two different things. I like to live my life in the realm of reality.

[carlfense]

That's a hell of a commitment to make with someone without knowing if you're sexually compatible. So, no it's a bad idea.

No chance. Lets just leave aside the religious chasm that would be between us for a second. I need to know if I'm sexually compatible with someone before thats the only person I will, perhaps, ever have sex with again.

 

This thread needs a poll.

 

 

You have a penis and she a vagina, correct?

That has f#*k all to do with whether or not someone is mindbogglingly boring in the sack.

 

 

This is a disgusting view of sex and marriage. You're implying that someone who isn't highly entertaining and pleasing in sex is less worthy of marriage or superior to someone else who isn't. Maybe you think I'm putting words in your mouth, but that's the natural and inescapable progression of where that line of thinking leads, and it is entirely and absolutely selfish in nature. Outside of religious belief or not, marriage needs to have at least some element of selflessness and sacrifice in order to work. If it doesn't, we all know what it leads to. Like it should be a surprise that the couple NUance referenced got divorced, and not because she wasn't exciting in the sack.

Have you had sex and/or are you married?

 

Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship. If you don't know that yet you will probably know it eventually. It's not everything . . . but it is very important. You are absolutely correct that marriage needs elements of sacrifice and selfishness. It also needs some compatibility in the bedroom.

[Landlord]

Have you had sex and/or are you married?

 

Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship. If you don't know that yet you will probably know it eventually. It's not everything . . . but it is very important. You are absolutely correct that marriage needs elements of sacrifice and selfishness. It also needs some compatibility in the bedroom.

 

 

I have had sex. Am not married. And the only compatibility needed is compatible sex organs.

[zoogs]

I don't know, I don't think sex is that an important piece of marriage. I feel like if you have a true relationship with somebody, it will get worked out one way or another.

 

I think associating sex solely within the domain of marriage puts it up on a greater pedestal than it is worth. You marry someone for a lifelong relationship, and that is about so much more than sex that the sex is something that just inevitably comes as a part of it. It seems illogical to place any sort of importance on "quality of shag" for a marriage decision. Equally, I don't understand waiting and treating it as this super special, sacred thing. Saving yourself for the purpose of making the sex itself more "amazing" or whatever after you do end up getting married, doesn't make sense.

 

I mean, if your convictions are to save it for marriage, that's fine, as long as you do what seems to me to be the extra work in keeping your evaluation of "am I ready to commit to this relationship forever" separate from "is it sexy time nao?" I'm sure many people can handle making that distinction. It just isn't necessary to treating marriage with the importance it deserves, IMO.

[HSKR]

Considering how many marriages have ended in divorce because one or both went outside of the marriage to satisfy their sexual needs, I'm not sure how anyone can think it isn't an integral part of the relationship. Sure there are couples who get by just fine without but they would be the exception and not the rule imo.

[Landlord]

I don't know, I don't think sex is that an important piece of marriage. I feel like if you have a true relationship with somebody, it will get worked out one way or another.

 

I think associating sex solely within the domain of marriage puts it up on a greater pedestal than it is worth. You marry someone for a lifelong relationship, and that is about so much more than sex that the sex is something that just inevitably comes as a part of it. It seems illogical to place any sort of importance on "quality of shag" for a marriage decision. Equally, I don't understand waiting and treating it as this super special, sacred thing. Saving yourself for the purpose of making the sex itself more "amazing" or whatever after you do end up getting married, doesn't make sense.

 

I mean, if your convictions are to save it for marriage, that's fine, as long as you do what seems to me to be the extra work in keeping your evaluation of "am I ready to commit to this relationship forever" separate from "is it sexy time nao?" I'm sure many people can handle making that distinction. It just isn't necessary to treating marriage with the importance it deserves, IMO.

 

The motivation behind saving sex for marriage isn't primarily so it's more amazing - it's because there is (or ought to be) a certain level of intimacy, not just physically, involved in the act of sex that a person wants to only feel with the person they spend their life with.

[HUSKER 37]

Have you had sex and/or are you married?

 

Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship. If you don't know that yet you will probably know it eventually. It's not everything . . . but it is very important. You are absolutely correct that marriage needs elements of sacrifice and selfishness. It also needs some compatibility in the bedroom.

 

 

I have had sex. Am not married. And the only compatibility needed is compatible sex organs.

 

Spoken like a typical guy..

 

( I just wish this kind of info was this easy to get back when I was in school...We had to read books on fertility and the rhythm method in Love Library while trying to cover up the book titles back then..And some of the books still denied anything about G spots or naughty parts to wave around)..

 

 

 

There's much more to it than busting a nut, Grasshopper..

[Landlord]

Have you had sex and/or are you married?

 

Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship. If you don't know that yet you will probably know it eventually. It's not everything . . . but it is very important. You are absolutely correct that marriage needs elements of sacrifice and selfishness. It also needs some compatibility in the bedroom.

 

 

I have had sex. Am not married. And the only compatibility needed is compatible sex organs.

 

Spoken like a typical guy..

 

( I just wish this kind of info was this easy to get back when I was in school...We had to read books on fertility and the rhythm method in Love Library while trying to cover up the book titles back then..And some of the books still denied anything about G spots or naughty parts to wave around)..

 

 

 

There's much more to it than busting a nut, Grasshopper..

 

You misunderstand me. I'm not saying that as in "I don't care if she's good as long as she's got two legs and a vagina so I can have sex with her oh baby yes I am the man alright!"

 

I'm saying it as in "However 'good' or 'bad' or 'compatible' my wife is, she'll be more than enough."